What’s the reason people fail to achieve things? Didn’t have’s come up: I didn’t have enough money, time, contacts, experience, resources, etc.

But it is not resources, it is resourcefulness (creativity, determination, curiosity, passion, resolve). If you don’t have enough money, but if it is important enough you can find a way.

3 Decisions of Destiny

There are 3 decisions we are making every moment of our lives, either consciously or unconsciously.

1. What are you going to focus on?
   Focus = feeling
   Past/present/future
   Self or others
2. What does it mean?
   Is is the beginning or end?
   Am I being punished or rewarded?
3. What are you going to do?
   Are you going to give up or move forward?

Emotion creates action.

Think about your life, the decisions that have shaped your destiny. In the last 5-10 years, have there been decisions that if you made a different decision, how would your life been different? Some decisions shape not only our life, but our culture.

Some make decisions with emotional fitness, psychological strength.

What shapes our lives?

The 2 primary patterns or 2 invisible forces that shape us:

1. In the moment: our physical or emotional state.
2. Long term: our model of the world is the filter that shapes meaning, emotion and action

What influences you and others?

1. What’s your target? What are your needs? There are 6 shared needs: certainty, uncertainty (variety), significance, connection & love, growth, and to contribute beyond our selves. The specific target or lead need that shapes you tilts you into a particular direction. And as you move into a direction, you have a destiny.
2. What’s your map? What’s your belief system to get those needs?
3. What’s the fuel you pick? Negative or positive? What are your dominant emotions? Guilty people get guilty, sad people get sad, worried people get worried.

Explore your web, the needs, the beliefs, the emotions that are controlling you. For 2 reasons, so you can understand your motivations, so there is more of you to give, but also so you can appreciate what’s driving other people. It’s the only way the world is going to change.

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